There are those times when we give up and feel sorry for ourselves because our minds are cluttered with paralyzing thoughts that keep us from living fully. Maybe it's time to sweep our heads clean and finally break free of that inertia.
If you're still feeling gloomy, lackluster and taciturn from the winter, it's time for some spring cleaning! Yes, a thorough cleaning of your head in order to make room for a healthier mind and to find, at the same time, your vitality and your good mood! If you live in a hemisphere with a milder climate, you are probably not subject to the apathy that strikes the inhabitants of the northern hemisphere during the winter. However, that doesn't mean you're immune to the occasional dark thought. It's time for you to clean up your negative thoughts and stop brooding.
I know the question is on your mind. You are probably wondering: how? Well, by reframing your thoughts.
DON'T ACT LIKE A VICTIM OF THE EVENTS IN YOUR LIFE, LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST!
Your existence is not as dark as you think and it is time to see the light. Yes, that ray of sunshine that you prevent yourself from looking at because you are blinded by your thoughts of self-flagellation. You can't control everything, but your self-destructive thoughts are keeping you living in an inadequate pattern. By reframing all those sick thoughts of victimization, dramatization, and self-deprecation that you have, you can change your life. Stop telling yourself that what happens to you is always someone else's fault, that everyone is against you, that you're unlucky, that you're not worth it, that you feel incapable of succeeding, that everything always goes wrong and so on! These beliefs ruin your fulfillment and prevent you from getting the most out of life. You need to look at your life from a different perspective. Then you will find that you will smile more often and be able to enjoy your life more.
"It is not what happens to us that destroys us, it is what we think about it".
ADD A ROSE-COLOURED FILTER TO YOUR LENSES: REFRAMING
"Cognitive reframing", also called "cognitive and behavioral restructuring" is a reorganization of the thought system. You can see it like a reprogramming of your mind. It is therefore possible to get rid of the blues and get back on track by transforming your negative ideas into positive thoughts. You will have to decondition yourself from the melodrama and influence yourself positively by creating a framework favorable to the construction of a more realistic perception of the situation. Reframing your thoughts consists in finding an alternative and positive interpretation of what you have experienced or what you are going through. It is a very good way to get rid of negative thoughts because, on the one hand, it pushes you to review your experience from a more pleasant perspective and, on the other hand, it helps you to transform your feelings into an experience and emotion that pulls you up. By using reframing, you will resurface and see life a little brighter.
EXPERIENCE A SUSTAINABLE TRANSFORMATION
Reframing is necessary when there is a distortion of the experience. The distortion comes from the fact that the person is basing his or her conclusions on an insufficient source of information, which leads to false conclusions. In order to make an accurate judgment, you must go through a reflective process in which you ask a set of questions about the context. These questions can be seen as a challenge to your first assumption. They will result in a more accurate view of reality. This requires an effort, but the more you do it, the more you will develop this good habit, and the more the meaning you will have of what you live will be positively transformed. It is a process of deconstructing erroneous conclusions that is supposed to lead you to valid and positive conclusions. If you want to know how to do this, I recommend you read the following article:
It is not always easy to do this on your own, as it requires you to overcome your resistance. So the help of a psychotherapist can sometimes be useful. If you feel the need, do not hesitate to seek the support of a professional.
START REVISITING YOUR LIFE NOW
To improve the quality of your state of mind, the first step is to become aware of its condition and the second is to take action. Take charge of your life and make it better. Know that reframing your thoughts is both taming what you can't change and creating harmony in the course of your life. So take advantage of spring cleaning to clean your mind and adopt a new habit, that of changing your perspective on your worries. You will give yourself a chance to improve your mind and keep it healthy.
For my part, I've been doing it for the last two months and I must admit that it really puts things into perspective. I feel a big difference in my mindset and I have much more confidence in life. I hope that you will be able to do this too. If you try it, let me know in the comments what you got out of it. Good luck!
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(Ma qualité de vie means My quality of life in French.)
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